I believe in the idea of a “love pie”. Basically, its a virtual, imaginary “quota” of love you have in your life. I know some may disagree and say that the more you love, the more love there is in the world. They think it is a cheap commodity that must be shared to everyone, so that, other people too who is being loved will in turn be more “loving people”. In the end, the world would be a better place.
Personally, I feel there’s a quota. Yes, I think that love is a free flowing thing, kinda like water. But at the same time, to me it is as valuable as oil. On top of that, we have a quota. My initial model is that it is a one off, lifelong quota. But upon reflection and fine tuning of this idea, I think its more of a “yearly” quota, which a divine power will restore you with on your birthday every year. Actually, the term 1 year is very significant. Every 365 1/4 days, the Earth make one circle around the sun, travels hundreds of millions of miles (that’s 8 trailing zeroes) in seemingly endless “ether”.
Its like this, say on October 21st, you get your quota. 100 units for example, to be used on anyone you come in contact with on the year. I’m zooming in on the one-on-one sort of friendship relationships, whether same sex, or otherwise. So if you’re giving a speech to an audience of 1000 people, you’re not really SHOWERING everyone will love, per se, as per this model. It is more of a individual thing. I believe love is a constant if all else equal, but you can “tambah” if you feel obliged or prompted to. Lets say I have 3 friends only. In this case, the slice of pie is very huge!
A – 20 units. B – 70 units C – 10 units
Because perception varies from people to people, the 70 units you “show” to B, might be perceived as only 10 units received. B might not value the love you show, but guess what, you’ve “used up” your quota on B.
On the other hand, you invested only 10 units on C. On the other hand, C might interpret it as 50 units, yielding P/E ratio of 5:1 (Finance students correct me, Finance bo gia A1!) Imagine the possibilities if you just double up your effort, and C would get the full 100 units of love. I am currently studying whether the relationship between love given and love perceived is linear, co-linear or it follows the Power Log.
One of the factors or possible application of this model is, your Facebook friends. I have only 120 friends, so my 100 units of “love quota” per year has to be shared among my active friends. For friends I haven’t seen in the past 6 months, you would only have 0.002 units of my quota each, for example. For friends on a more regular basis, the score is about 2-3 units. If its a “close friend”, then maybe 10-15 units. Remember, this quota is shared. In this case, we exclude the love for divine powers, as practised by some religions. I think we can exclude family members and immediate relatives in this model because we focus more on our love for friends.
This model breaks down on the recipients end, because I have not yet determined how much love you can handle. Should I give it a 100 unit scale, or, should it be a percentage scale of the love you give?
Say for example, C is a very sadist person, and has only given out 10 units of love to a different person D. Now, you gave C only 10 units, but C perceives it as 50 units. That is how much you are worth to C. The adjusted relative score (or Z-Score, alpha) would be 50 over 10, in this case 5. My model stipulates a scale
0 < Z < 0.5 Go see psychologist!
0.5 < Z < 2 You need to love more
2 < Z < 10 Good job, you’re a lovely person
Z > 10 Go see psychiatrist!
I like to call this scale, the Felicia Score in memory of this girl I knew :P
Another score worth tabulating is the Pippo Score. Taking the same case with our fictional “C”, I give 10 units, C perceives it as 50 units, but only gives out 10 units.
Say, C now gives out 30 units to E. The dynamics has shifted more towards E. The Pippo Score gives a more accurate picture of the whole situation relative to the new variable that has entered the equation.
You -> C = 10 units
C <0— You = 50 units
C —-> E = 30 units
My quota left: 0
C quota left: 60 units (used 40)
Felicia score = 50 / 10 = 5
Pippo score = (50 / 10 ) / 40 = 0.8
Lets say C uses all 100 units of love, the Pippo score (awarded to the subject would be)
Pippo score assuming C uses 100 units of love = (50 / 10) / 100 = 0.05
For the Pippo score, it doesn’t really say much about what type of person you are. It is just a method of evaluating your investment, whether your priorities are right.
In future more complex models, I would adjust “Felicia Score” relative to the love returns you get from A and B as well.
So if A’s 20 units yield 20 perceived units and B’s 70 units yield 10 units, your average Pippo score would be:
A 20/20 = 1, B = 10/70 = 0.7 + C’s 0.8 (as calculated earlier) divided by 3 subjects yielding a average of 83%. Break even point is of course, 100%. So you might re-evaluate your strategy to allocate more resources on C for example.
So to be a normal person, I determined that you have to be loved 200 units assuming you use up all your 100 units of love. Anything below would be signs of an introvert, or.. someone hated and disliked. Anything too high, and you might be in potential danger. Not now, but perhaps when one day, the people close to you abandon you.
Now, this analysis must be carried out independently by an audit firm like KPMG, PWC or L&D (lukas and darrel) or Y&W (Yap and Wilson). The subjects involved must be mutual friends, so an independent auditing can be done, negating the bias in opinion when you are in love.
Yupp, that’s it for this morning. Its 8am, time to hit the gym before pushing for my DMM exam, which of course, involves Statistical Analysis which is why I wrote this. kthxbie.
